Some fathers are trying their best to help with childcare.

The term “ikumen” is wrong. Fathers should take care of their children, too.”
Such criticism can make fathers feel trapped.
Fathers are also trying their best to raise their children as well as they can.
In Japan, the term “ikumen” has been used for a long time (it has been popular since 2010), but on the other hand, there are many negative opinions such as “the term ikumen is strange,” “It’s only natural for a father to take care of two children.,” “Is it a prerequisite for the mother to take care of the child?,” “don’t call yourself an ikumen just because you change diapers on weekends,” and so on.
The negative opinions (mostly from women) about “ikumen” are probably justified. Theoretically, of course, it is understandable that a man should take care of his two children.
However, when wives and other women around you make this kind of argument, fathers sometimes feel a little empty, like, “Don’t say that.”
The reason why fathers feel empty is because most of them think they are doing things in their own way. And some of them are just barely managing to be “ikumen” with their work. It’s not a good feeling to be denied that.
So why can’t fathers meet women’s expectations for ikumen?
On average, fathers work about 9 hours, but about half of them work more than 9 hours.
The commuting time is also added, so it takes a lot of time.
For example, if the workday starts at 9:00 a.m, the regular time is 6:00 p.m. with an hour break. That’s more than an hour of overtime.With commuting time added, the average time to go home is probably around 9:00 pm. Some 20-30% of the employees come home later than that.
9:00 p.m. is about the time when the kids go to bed. It’s almost as if you can’t manage to get home while the kids are still awake.
This means that they are far from being able to take care of their children as their wives expect.